Who pays on the first date? In the year 2015 there really isn’t a right or wrong answer.
Some men get offended when a woman insists on paying the bill and some women get offended when the men are adamant on paying. Is it who asks out who first is the one that pays? Is it the person that picks the place? Nevertheless it can be an awkward moment at the end of the meal.
Thoughts?
Good Morning Gloucester 
Any time you wish to take me out Alicia, with you paying is OK with me…lol…
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if I choose the place then u got it!
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From a 67 year old oldie: If this creates conflict and you can’t figure it out, you aren’t meant for each other, at least not right now. If you can discuss it openly and resolve it one way or another, hey, you have the beginnings of a good relationship. Please, do it BEFORE the date.
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but that’s so odd to talk about before a date.. no?
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I should add, I almost always see it my wife’s way. She’s so sweet, it makes it easy.
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I think that it properly depends on who asked whom to what — if you invite someone out for a drink, or for dinner, then you are responsible for the check. If it’s a shared “why don’t we get some supper” kind of thing, the bill is likewise shared. The important thing, I believe, is awareness of the inviter’s motive; this has always been the reason so many slope-headed males have thought that they were owed some measure of feminine intimacy in return for dinner and a movie, and why many women quite reasonably want to go Dutch.
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Good one!
I been here before – one buy the breakfast or if late sleeper lunch, and the other get supper does not have to be on the same day. I have to be totally honest I took a girlfriend out in the teens to a fancy place and being a sort of rural guy I didn’t have enough money as it was more expensive than I thought. My date pay the difference and we both had a good laugh, Luckily she bailed me out I was red faced-thought I may end up washing dishes 🙂 The drove up to mountain Crest overlooking the city!. I did make it up! Lesson learned don’t leave home without enough but heck teen still learning :-O
TOGETHER (Spanish Version) By Tierra
🙂 Dave & Kim 🙂
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what an embarrassing lesson to learn! 🙂
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Yes it was! 🙂 Dave
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The bill definitely goes to the person that asked the other out no matter what genders are involved.
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The person who did the asking should pay. Even if the other did the asking, you should still offer to pay when the bill comes. The asker should then politely decline your offer. I went on a date last year (he asked) and I got out my debit card when he got his out, and he never stopped me, so I paid half. He did also bring me flowers, but I felt like it was kind of strange for a first date that he asked me on to have me pay (and it was at a Mexican place, not super fancy or expensive)…
The most recent guy I was spending time with, he paid for the first few things, but then we traded off. Only seems fair.
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i def agree you as well james. whoever asks should pay for the date.. this guy really let you pay half after asking you??
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