Why Can’t We Be Friends?

I’m going to let you in on a little secret.

One of my best friends in the entire world has a penis.

I could stop this post there and assume you know what I’m getting at…but, for fear you’ll misinterpret my meaning, I’ll go on.

One of my very best friends is a boy.

That may not seem blog worthy to you, but as of late I’ve been wondering how many others out there have a best friend of the opposite sex.

This friend and I have been close for almost 20 years and he means the world to me.  I’m not going to lie, in the very beginning we toyed with the idea of being more than friends, but never much did.

One night, a few years into our friendship, we were out together on Christmas Eve and he introduced me to the man who is now my husband of 13 years and the father to our two sons.

My friend is still an amazing friend and I treasure his presence in my life in ways that are kind of hard to explain.  I know he’d do anything for me and he’s brutally honest in ways that are totally refreshing.  He’s one of the most generous people people I’ve ever met…and the laughing that comes when we’re together is priceless to me.  Really, truly, priceless.

He goes away for long periods of time for work and we go months (or even longer) without seeing each other, but when he comes home I’m beyond thrilled to see him.  Through the years he’s had a fair share of long term relationships….and I’ve met them all.  Some embraced me as his good friend, sometimes realizing that befriending me was as a hall pass of sorts….some didn’t quite understand and never much liked me.  Bygones.

My husband is supportive (well, maybe tolerant is a better adjective) because I think he really understands that this friendship is something that I need and cherish…even if I can’t so eloquently explain why.  But, I am well aware, it is a luxury that he is tolerant as most others raise an eyebrow and find it more than a bit strange.

Sometimes I understand why others find it strange….sometimes I don’t.  To be blunt, the fact that he has a penis doesn’t mean I’m going to see it any more than the fact that my girlfriends having boobies and a vagina means that I’m going to be seeing those.  I have plenty of girlfriends whose private parts I’ve certainly never seen.  Right?

So, I ask you, can men and women just be friends?  When Harry Met Sally tells us “no”, but I think “yes”.

Comment please if you do indeed (or ever have had) a good friend of the opposite sex and take the poll to add your opinion.

GloucesterCast With Guest Toby Pett and Host Joey Ciaramitaro Taped 10/03/14

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Topics Include:Guest Toby Pett, Muffin Eating Etiquette, Donut vs Muffin, Last Stop Variety, Reasons For Not Getting A Flu Shot, The Internet and Bad Medical Information, Fenway Park Derek Jeter Love Fest, Anna and James Eves Chase Mission Main Street small business grant, Cape Ann Farmer’s Market, Maitland Farms Pickles, Toby Talks about Stuff He Baked That Had Nothing To Do with The Original Question, Mile Marker One Marshalls Farm and The Bridge Fall Fest, Mile Marker One $5 Burgers On Thursdays, The Causeway Restaurant, The Pool At Cape Ann Marina In the Winter, Fan of Fall and Shorter Days Or Not?, Cape Ann Chimney and Hearth, Bait Truck Comes Down With A Broken Pallet Jack Once Again, Bonus Mid-week Podcast.

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2014-10-03 10.07.48Mr Effervescent.

You Are Beautiful

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You’re invited to attend an art exhibition opening reception, featuring photographs of wounded veterans by Rockport-based artist, Thi Linh Wernau. “YOU. ARE. BEAUTIFUL. – A Tribute to Warriors” will feature 35 photographs from a series intended to honor the sacrifice of our wounded veterans, empower them with a vehicle for voice through art and inspire and help other veterans in need. A number of the veterans in this project will be in attendance at the reception.

In addition, the evening will help raise awareness of the invisible wounds of war, especially PTSD (post-traumatic stress) and TBI (traumatic brain injuries). The event will help support The Red Sox Foundation and Mass General Hospital Home Base Program, who provide clinical services to veterans and their families. Complimentary drinks and light appetizers will be provided. Attendance is free, but RSVP is requested by October 8.

WHEN? Wednesday, October 15, from 5:30 – 7:30PM (formal speaking program begins at 6:30PM)

WHERE? McGladrey Art Gallery, 80 City Square, Charlestown, MA

RSVP is requested by OCT 8. Click this link to register: http://goo.gl/8iYSWN OR you may also RSVP by joining the Facebook event page here: http://goo.gl/LgEDPU

This exhibition is proudly sponsored by: McGladrey, Wernau Asset Management, The New England Council.

To view examples of the artist’s photography, please visit: http://ThiLinh.com. If you have any questions, you can email the artist directly at twernau@gmail.com.

Flu Shot?

You know I’ve had life threatening health issues. I asked my AGH cancer doctor when and if I should get a flu shot. He said get one now, it won’t interfere with my chemotherapy. On the way out, the hospital receptionist said she had no idea when the hospital flu shots would be offered, but soon: “Call next week.” Well, I called yesterday, a week later, and they still have no clue. I love my local hospital, Addison Gilbert, but please… Your local discount drug store is ready to help you. Sad.

Community Photos 10/3/14

Dot (Gloucester Quilter) and Bex Send In Some Love…



John Nasser Represens! at St. Peter’s Basilica

Now that fall 2014 is upon us, I was going through some photos from this past summer and found this shot representing GMG at St. Peter’s Basilica in Vatican City during our family trip in July to Italy and Sicily.


Community Stuff 10/3/14

Gloucester Police Accepting Citizens Police Academy Applications

More than 100 Gloucester Residents Have Gone Through 4-Week Program


Police Chief Leonard Campanello announces that the Gloucester Police Department is now accepting applications for the annual Citizens Police Academy program.

“Citizens Police Academy is a great way for our residents to learn what it is really like to be a police officer, working a beat and serving our community every day,” Chief Campanello said. “I encourage anyone with an interest in police work, or who simply wants to see how we do our jobs, to sign up.”

Running Tuesday, Oct. 28, 2014, and continuing for the next four weeks, the department will offer the free program for Gloucester residents age 18 and over.  Gloucester Police Officers will instruct students on subjects such as domestic violence, motor vehicle law, patrol procedures, accidents, firearms awareness, juvenile and drug problems, and many other topics relevant to police work.

The academy will also include a police ride-along and a tour of the Middleton House of Correction. 

This class experience is designed to bring citizens into the station and give them a clear picture of what it’s like to be a Gloucester Police Officer. Citizens will learn a great deal about all aspects of police work and leave with a true representation of life as a police officer.

Please complete the application and drop it off at the front desk of the police
station or mail it to:

Lt. John McCarthy
Gloucester Police Department
197 Main Street,
Gloucester, MA 01930

The department will notify accepted applicants on or before October 21. Feel free to  contact Lt. John McCarthy at 978-281-9900 with any questions

Hi Joey,

Being an artist and a Magnolia resident, thought our fellow Cape Ann folks might like to see the new nature and art series we have here at Mass Audubon. We have several properties on Cape Ann, however this one is in Topsfield. Hope you can post! J

Sue Ann Pearson
Development Assistant
Ipswich River Wildlife Sanctuary
87 Perkins Row / Topsfield MA 01983-1999



Oarmaster’s Cup Race October 11th.

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This year’s Oarmaster’s Cup Race is scheduled for Saturday, October 11th, 10 AM at Maritime Gloucester.  The course will be the same as previous years starting off the pier at Maritime Gloucester out around Ten Pound Island and back (1-3/4 miles & pending weather).  This final race of the season crowns the finest “singles” rower in the US and all members are welcomed to participate or at the very least come down and watch.  Participants should reply to this email to pre-register.  If the weather cooperates we will finish the race heats and enjoy lunch on the pier.  Hope to see you all there!


Website redesign & 2015 Focus

A complete overhaul has been completed on the IDRC’s website to allow more up-to-date information, better connectivity to social media and easier access for our members (check it out at www.internationaldories.com).  We have included in the redesign better information for new members on how to get started and online payment options for dues.  This is a work in progress, so please offer any feedback or suggestions.
With our focus on the 2015 season, we are planning our year end board meeting for the end of October and hope to fill some empty seats.  Board members help make the yearly schedule, put on our various events, support our races, help with boat maintenance, make new member introductions, etc.  If you have some time to donate, please join us at our year end board meeting at the end of October (date/location tba).


It would be so appreciated if you could help us spread the word on the Rockport Cub Scouts Haunted Hayride- Cape Ann’s only hayride put on by kids for kids!  Many thanks!